My boyfriend doesn't want kids, what do I do?

Hi,  

Unfortunately, there's no simple solution to your dilemma. Whether to have children or not is a question most couples will ask themselves at some point. Some people know from the start that they want children; others are convinced they don't. In addition, many people are unsure, perhaps a feeling you can relate to. It's also important to remember that it's quite normal to change the perception regarding this matter throughout life. It's not shared (in your question) how old your boyfriend is, but it is also normal to feel a sense of "unreadiness" to have children when you're in your twenties. Many couples experience a change of opinion with age. On the other hand, many couples live a happy life without children.  

I'm unsure about what degree you and your boyfriend have talked about this. You're still young, and it's natural if you're a bit uncertain. My advice is that it will be important for you both to have an honest conversation with each other. That will provide both of you with the opportunity to reflect together on what the future might hold. You will be able to understand each other better, hence also make choices together.  

In decision making, it could be useful to think of various scenarios. You could make a pro/con list, both with and without kids. In addition, you could do the same with your relationship. This activity can make it easier to view perspectives from both you and your boyfriend, and as a result have a safe conversation. You could start by sharing your thoughts about having children, both the practical and emotional aspects. What are possible worries and/or joy for you both? As a result, you might find some answers as to what to do next with your relationship. Perhaps that's the crossroads you're at right now, should I go or should I stay? 

The decision to have a child is a huge responsibility, therefore it's important to spend time exploring wishes and thoughts together. Remember, one step at a time. Be true to yourself. I hope you'll find the right decision for you.  

All the best,